Gender: Sexual identity, especially in relation to society or culture. "Manly" or "Womanly" are used often.

What is "manly" or "womanly"? What those terms based on?
Usually those terms used in comparison of two or more things.

"Wear more womanly stuff."

That means,

"Wear more womanly stuff (that matches my idea of "womanly")."
"Wear more womanly stuff (that matches the social idea against girls)."

My mother used to say so to me, who always wore tired-looking pair of jeans and T-shirts.
To her, I didn't look "womanly," I think.

When you hear those phrases, you would have one idea: girls don't wear jeans or T-shirts.
The idea of being a girl (female) in me has been built up by grownups around me and school education.

Isn't it strange and funny that the pictures of girl (female) and boy (male) in us are not originated by ourselves but given by others and education. But most of us never doubt that they are of their own ideas.

Having those given ideas, we see men and women.

Do we really have to keep the "womanly" way that are given in society and built up at school?

I would like to be as what I am and do as I want, and live with idea of own gender that I myself built up.